Safety in These Times of Violence
Are We Abandoned or Is There a Free Zone?
We need to feel both safe and loved, to flower fully.
A person cannot feel the love all around them, even when offered freely, if they don't feel safe. It's a strange dilemma... Often what the wounded person requires to feel safe is something that no one can supply... Even when endless care and offerings are given with love. Still, kindness is probably the best way to help the most.
-Michael Coffman, who asked his Facebook friends to comment.
Here’s One comment:
When we are identified with the body we think we need love and safety… when we realize we are not just these bodies we know we ARE what we think we need…. -Laurie Thiboutot
There’s such a direct simplicity in Laurie’s response. One of the ways I see the problems we face has to do with suffering from a really bad case of misidentification. We have an ability to disidentify, isn’t that something of a saving grace — one that can change our world if we catch on to it?
At about 6:30 this early Thursday morning, still in bed, finger flashing over my phone’s keyboard, here’s my response to his offering:
Where and how does the felt sense of lack of safety take place?
Where and how does the felt sense of trust get damaged or broken?
Who or what experiences the lack and the need for safety?
It has so much to do with relationship doesn’t it?
There are natural disasters of course, growing up in the various war zones on the planet, some in cities, some in households. Relationships grow as we center our consciousness in the body in need of support to survive infancy and childhood.
There’s so much human wretchedness born of disconnection, separation, violence that’s on now ubiquitous screens, and in relationships that act out their defensive strategies unconsciously perpetuating the belief “I am not safe here.” Identification with ourselves as these bodies can scream that phrase.
Flowers grow in the cracks in cement. Isn’t that something? Greatness emerges from tumultuous situations despite not receiving care for abuse and trauma.
Most do not see or experience directly the emanation of sacred life as holy Immanance that Is the whole of existence and live that truth while doing everything possible to meet the conditioning of human consciousness that veils, divides and conquers; that cements the luminosity into false formations.
Yet what is needed IS within every soul. The reSource is shared as an expression of blessing quite naturally in the free unconditioned transparent psyche and soul.
Unconditional love.
Wounded people in relationship can be tyrannical in demanding safety. We project these unsafe childhood environments in which we still live unconsciously. The “others” are seen, regardless of loving intent, as perpetrators. The hyper-alert system finds subtle nuances of energy and reaction patterns are instantly triggered. When we are compassion showing up in the field, the trigger and the defensive party can be disarmed. In these places within we long, often for a very long time, for compassionate presence. Then the triggering mechanism can eventually be fully met and released.
The superego is internalized punishment, shaming and blaming. So we can be unsafe and unforgiving within as well as without. I used to see it as my personal kind of self-karma. It didn’t play out that much in relationships, but boy was I hard on myself!
By grace, circumstances are such that a spark is ignited within to be free. My own journey has been spiritual, psycho-social, somatic and nature-connected, quite the holistic eclectic one. Because the doors of perception opened for me when I was 19, I saw and experienced what I’d read and heard about directly. The drive to know the truth set in. It’s led me down many pathways in deep explorations of consciousness.
It’s taken quite a bit to unravel the tendrils and tentacles (or as a friend called her experience of them, ‘tendricles’) regarding abandonment, exile, rejection and betrayal that all break trust only to find who I am is always safe. I’ve always been safe. It occurs that even in violent death who I am still is, not just safe, but is what lives. As Such I Am Is the safety zone we embody and offer.
It’s not that the body doesn’t react to threat. Survival and its biochemistry might still function. There are reported cases among the awakened that demonstrate that the truth is so alive and embodied, that there’s no fear in the face of death.
For most of us, that instinctual drive is part of the creative life force energy of infinite intelligence inherent to our systems. Yet we can be safe and sound in an office and under such stress, self and other inflicted, that our whole system is in reaction and being overridden instead of cared for well. The body sickens. We are supposed to out perform the others to succeed, right?
Due to the violence in my childhood household, I’ve been conflict avoidant. My whole body has shaken in the face of raised voices. I’ve had to learn a lot about safety and trust in relationships, dealing with the traumatic situations that were part of shaping this body and psyche of the soul. And in my relationship with this world. Liberation is quite the undertaking. (pun intended!)
When you really examine the experience we call stress, you may find what I did, it’s comprised of resistance to what is being experienced. We don’t like it — the experience that we are having — we resist it. Our whole bio-cosmic energetic living system reacts, and we are out of sorts. We keep on a-goin’ though, don’t we, overriding and ignoring what we’re doing and experiencing? Then we go home and collapse. We disregard further by distracting in so many ways. Our inner being, inner soul child remains unsafe, untended.
What we truly want is cooperation, collaboration, creative play, a sense of meaning, high regard and respect for One another instead of competition and survival of the fittest—that distortion of Darwin’s discoveries. He actually did report findings on creative collaboration and cooperation among species that contributed to all of nature’s surviving and flourishing. But it didn’t fit the dominant patriarchal ideology — whereas competition and dominance in scarcity did.
There’s been a r’evolution in consciousness going on despite — yet also because of — the variety of impingements of our dysfunctional patriarchal empires. That age and all the structures that support it are coming down, inside us and in our world.
It’s also ‘not safe’ for ego structures as we awaken from misidentification. Something stronger and far more powerful is arising to free us from our delusions, wounds and suffering.
We are inherently free. The unconditioned unconditional exists within every. single. One. of. US. — the Unity Self of infinite diversity.
When we are what Is Home Here, issues of lack of safety and trust are taken care of so well that we are supported and enabled to live in bold vulnerable open confidence daring to shine brightly and uniquely in the shadowlands of human suffering. We are fully capable of comforting, compassionately caressing the unloveable as our Self when we are speaking and operating out of the truth of our essential unity.
It’s how we Be the change. The old world and ways are self-destructing while fighting to maintain, and clinging to continuing, dominating and profiting. The horrors of the monstrous face us daily. What IS is greater than that drive to survive!
What is within us that penetrates, sees through the appearance in a grand non-doing effortless manner that contributes to this radical shift in conscious — this r’evolution occurring in hearts and souls all over the planet?
As a species we have put ourselves on the brink, collectively and individually. We’re at a tipping point. Will we risk our notions of human safety and creature comforts to boldly go where no one has gone before?
Aren’t we called to answer in the affirmative? To take to the streets and sing and dance the joys of our sacred and inherent union?
It’s not a protest but an advent. We celebrate pure sacred Life of the totality of Holy Being in infinite intra-connected magnificent diverse wholeness. We love the enemy that is our Self in disarming and generous ways.
The Seer Is looking through to what underlies all appearances — it’s all the same pure sacred stuff. Its luminescence shines out of those lit up joyous eyes, even when they weep at the death and destruction. Its pulsating love beats in those sacred hearts even when they are broken open into depths of despair at the world’s intransigent divisiveness. Everybody is being killed now, men, women, elders, children, babies — no one is safe. The extinction of vital aspects of our eco-system is going on daily.
For love and peace to reign, we dive in and plumb the depths. We are given the support and means release the blockages. We love even when it seems impossible. It’s an infinite invisible zone of safety and freedom born of our conscious union, our rebirths in and of the LoveLight of This LightHearted Being that’s got us. Our saving grace is that we’ve got This, and This has US. It works miracles. Through us, the invisible makes itself perfectly visible, makes Itself explicit hologramically speaking. We are essential to that occurring, by willingly allowing it to happen, for ourselves to be used for the greater purpose.
We are not victims of hatred due to differences, we are heroes, explorers, hunters seeking out the holy truth in everything no matter what it takes—this truth that sets us free; this truth that has no creed or doctrine but is so free as to be free of all concepts; this truth that belongs to everyone; this truth that liberates incarcerated souls; this truth born of the heart of Being that so loves us it sends US to One another to live, and live true, to live as One, the all-in-all—regardless. We are This Truth, Love and Peace incarnate. It is already so. Now if we will just awaken, arise and live it. Life may not be necessarily safe as we typically conceive it or wish it to be, but it will be Real.
It’s up to us. We are the One we are waiting for — it’s all right within us NowHere. Don’t our children need US to show them what’s possible? Let’s be brave and nondo what it ultimately takes: everything.
Let there Be Peace among all Being of the universe.
